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How to Talk Your Way Out of Public Speaking Fear
Posted: 13 Jul 2011 11:05 PM PDT
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How to Talk Your Way Out of Public Speaking Fear
There is no such thing as public speaking.
That simple claim may seem like a castle in the air to anyone with public
speaking anxiety. And yet its absolutely true.
We learn to fear this thing we call public speaking. Our fear doesnt emerge
out of nothingness, and it doesnt take shape without our help. Speaking in
public becomes anxiety-provoking only because we make it so. But the things
we hope to achieve in a speech or presentation are the very same goals we
aim for in interpersonal communication:
• We want to be heard.
• We want to connect with people.
• Wed like to help people if we can.
• We need to convey important information.
• We want to express our emotions.
• Wed like to bring about positive outcomes in peoples lives.
• Were trying to solve a problem.
• Were offering guidance or leadership.
• We have a vision we want to share with others.
• Our product or service meets a need, and we want to tell people about it.
• We wish to honor a person or an organization.
• Its a special occasion, and we want to say something about it.
• Wed like to share something interesting or funny with our audience.
In all of these situations, were trying to move people: to positively
change the way they think, feel, or behave.
And so we talk to them to make that happen.
We talk—and that little word says it all. We dont orate, declaim, rant, or
recite. We have a conversation with someone who is listening, which is the
most natural and effective way for one human being to communicate with a
person or a group.
We share important information and emotion by talking about those things.
When we do this with family, friends, colleagues, and chums, we speak
easily and naturally. Our voice, body language, personality, and sense of
humor emerge effortlessly. Its just us, sharing something we hope our
listeners will find interesting.
But a change takes place when we give a presentation, doesnt it? Thats when
nervousness and self-consciousness really kick in. Suddenly, those
individuals we talk to without any problem become part of a huge creature
with dozens or even hundreds of eyes, hands, and feet.
Now were no longer in easy conversation with people. Instead, were hoping
simply to survive!
What weve done, of course, is create an inner reality thats much worse than
the actual reality. We sense danger when there really isnt any. Is it any
wonder that we race through our speech or meeting remarks, fearful and
uncomfortable, demonstrating at every moment HOW UNPLEASANT IT IS TO SPEAK
IN FRONT OF OTHERS?
You Not Only Hold the Key to Success, Youve Used it Hundreds of Times
Heres the good news—the great news—about not only surviving but thriving in
situations like this: You already know how to be a confident and dynamic
public speaker. In fact, youve been using the exact skills, in just the
right way, your whole life.
You just havent realized it.
So heres the secret thats not such a secret about reducing stage fright:
Public speaking is nothing more than a conversation youre having with more
than one person. If you happen to be standing up while giving your speech
or presentation, then its simply a conversation on your feet.
In other words, youre perfectly positioned to talk your way through your
fear of public speaking. In fact, thats the only way to do it!
To be good at speaking in public—to be fully confident and to enjoy it—you
just have to speak as you would in a one-on-one conversation.
Theres never a need for you to become better than you would be while
chatting with your friends. In fact, its the attempt to do so which makes
you feel like you dont look or sound like yourself.
No wonder, because you dont!
Talking—just talking—to people is what will make you come across at your
absolute best. There really is nothing fancier or more scientific you need
to know about confident public speaking.
When you speak like yourself rather than that excellent speaker youd like
to be, you maximize the talents you already have in abundance.
So congratulations on being an interesting person who has something to say.
Were looking forward to hearing from you.
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An Effective Style To Use In Public Speaking: Audience Participation
Posted: 13 Jul 2011 07:04 PM PDT
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An Effective Style To Use In Public Speaking: Audience Participation
An effective public speaker should be able to utilize devices that will be
able to capture the attention of the audience. One effective means for them
to give you that much needed interest is this: get them to go on stage.
Make them participate. When someone is on stage and he or she happens to be
a member of the audience, the rest will almost always stay attentive. Why?
Because they would like to see what you will be doing to one of them. Also,
because they are thinking they could be up there themselves and so to save
their precious egos from embarrassment they at least need to know what is
going on.
No matter how good or excellent you are as a presenter or as a public
speaker, nothing beats the excitement of getting someone to be on stage who
really should not be there in the first place. What is going through their
minds at that moment when you pull an unsuspecting someone from their
complacency is that, Oh my god, what if the speaker selects me to go up
there next? What am I going to do? Then later, I need to pay attention to
this. A little bit later as you go through your presentation, the audience
will then most probably think, What point is he/she making? And then as you
take your point across, the audience will then get to think, Now I get it.
Because you made them pay attention, you have forced them to listen and
respond to your statement in the privacy of their minds.
However, there are those extremely shy and very sensitive members of the
audience who might withdraw from going through the rest of your
presentation if they hear you will be calling on them up on the stage. The
objective is to gain an audience and not to lose any of them.
Make it clear prior to your asking someone to come up on stage with you
that you are asking for a volunteer and that no one will be forced if they
do not want to. Notice that if the majority of your audience are shy, once
you finally get someone to be on stage, all of them will almost always
heave a sigh of relief that you would actually feel a breeze pass you by,
really.
Another way to get the audience to participate as well as pay attention is
by giving them due recognition. Try to acknowledge a single member of the
audience for a specific achievement or a moment of a good performance, or
also acknowledge a group of the audience.
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5 Tips on Overcoming the Fear of Public Speaking
Posted: 13 Jul 2011 03:06 PM PDT
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5 Tips on Overcoming the Fear of Public Speaking
Why are so many people terrified of the thought of public speaking? You
could be the most confident person, but if someone asked you to speak in
front of a crowd of people you would immediately start to sweat, shake and
feel very sick. It is a fact that Americans fear public speaking more than
death. The British fear it less they fear death more! Some actors go
through stage fright at some point in their career.
The American actress Daryl Hannah went to Paul McKenna to overcome her
stage fright it was her first time on stage. British actor Steven Fry
actually didnt turn up for his stage performance he fled the country
instead because he could not face the theatre audience. These are just
some examples of professional people who themselves suffer from the phobia
of appearing in front of large crowds. Though these two actors were
confident in front of a camera but when it came to appearing live on stage
with a vast crowd looking at them their confidence withered and panic set
in.
One of the reasons so many people fear public speaking is because when at
school they were asked to read in front of the class and when the teacher
corrected mistakes it would obviously trigger the other children to mock
the reader. (Teachers tend to point out the mistakes children make instead
of reinforcing children on how well they are doing.) This fear stays with
the child until adulthood and it eventually becomes a phobia. The thing is
all you need to know on how to overcome your fear of public speaking is
three things:
1. Manage your state
2. Know your content
3. Speak with passion
What I mean by manage your state is that say this famous actor suffered
from stage fright and this was his strategy on how he felt scared before
going on stage:
1. Imagining that some people in the audience were critics and were saying
horrible things about him, i.e. God hes crap. Stiff as a board. He should
go back to working in that factory.
2. Feeling the body stiffen because of the imaginary remarks and then
making a few dialogue errors because now he believes that everyone hates
him.
3.. Then finely in the actors negative internal dialogue he imagines now
the critics are saying something like, i.e. He is past his sell by date.
The more he believes his negative internal talk the more he makes mistakes.
He of course was not managing his state. What his internal dialogue should
have been saying is:
1. Imagining that when he walked on stage that the critics thought, i.e.
What a great actor. He gets better and better.
2. With the positive self talk he gives himself he will automatically
become more relaxed and confident with his performance.
3. As his performance progresses he is confident that he has done a good
job and the critics are loving his performance.
It is also important to know your content. If before you go to do public
speaking and you dont know what your are on about can seriously harm your
presentation and yourself.A good example of the importance of knowing your
content comes from self help guru Paul McKenna who had a deep learning
experience. He had been practising Neuro Linguistic Programming for about
10 years and before he went to teach one of his seminars he had mentally
learnt a script and planned on what he was going to say. Just before he
went on stage Richard Bandler, the architect of Neuro Linguistic
Programming, asked if he could do a different module from the one he was
given. Of course this worried Paul because he had not mentally rehearsed
the script for the other module. From the look on Pauls face Richard
Bandler gathered he was worried so he said: You have all the knowledge on
this subject you need. You just have to be in the right state and the words
and ideas will flow. After all, if you were sitting talking with friends
about it you wouldnt be worried, would you? Paul finely started to feel
relaxed and he went on stage for the first time with no rehearsed script.
He said it was one of the best classes he had ever taken! So this is why
its important to know your content before you take any form of class.
Whether youre a professional public speaker or actor it is important to
speak with a passion about your subject. Even if you are not a professional
public speaker if you are passionate about something it will come out in
your voice and the audience will automatically warm to you.
5 Steps to overcome fear of public speaking:
Think about any upcoming public performance/s you may have.
How do you want to feel during your performance, i.e. enthusiastic,
passionate, confident, etc.
Visualize a circle on the floor. Now fill the circle with any feelings you
desire. Think of a time when in the past you had your desired feelings,
i.e. confident, passionate, etc. An example of the circle: I fill this
circle with confidence and I stand in a confident manner. I am confident
with how I look, stand and act. I am also passionate, enthusiastic and
motivated to be the best at all I accomplish.
Now it is time to step into the circle and allow the feelings you desire to
spread all over your entire being. Imagine yourself doing all the things
you want to do and as soon as the feelings start to fade step out of the
circle. Recharge the circle with all the emotions you desire and then step
back into the circle.
This exercise should be repeated at least 5 times until you automatically
feel the way you wish to feel and do the things you want to do with
ultimate confidence!
So the above 5 tips will help you overcome the fear of public speaking. So
dont procrastinate go and become that POSITIVE GIANT you know is inside you!
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Fear of Public Speaking
Posted: 13 Jul 2011 11:01 AM PDT
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Fear of Public Speaking
Do you have a fear of public speaking? You have the ability to talk
perfectly in front of your friends and peers when the numbers are low, but
when in a meeting type situation when everythings serious and you have
every pair of eyes in the room locked on you, not one single word comes out
of your mouth? Well it only takes three days to master this feat once and
for all with Public Speaking Secrets!
When you know you have to stand in front of the crowd and speak, this is
when the anxiety of your fear of public speaking kicks in. It feels as if
your stomach tightens, you start taking shorter, much quicker breaths, and
act as if that group of 30 your about to speak in front of turned into 1000
people who are holding tomatoes ready to throw at any minute. But really,
you have to understand one thing. You are just like them. You wouldnt throw
a tomato at someone who YOU came to see. You wouldnt embarrass the person
who YOU paid money to see or even just devoted time out of the day to see.
Because than the crowd would be stupid for even just wanting to listen to
you. The crowd is there with open ears – theyre willing to listen.
Trying to be perfect on the stage is like trying to be god. It just wont
happen no matter what you try. You have to be yourself when speaking in
front of crowds or youll never be able to overcome your fear of public
speaking. Crowds that listen to public speakers generally come to see and
listen to the public speaker, not listen to someones impersonation. How
would you feel if you watched a comedian and all he did was imitate other
comedians? Youd feel ripped off correct? Learning to be yourself is a
strong key to get rid of your fear of public speaking.
Another way to rid of your fear of public speaking is to not try to
remember the whole speech. When trying to remember the whole speech word
for word in the same order, you are bound to mess up, especially when
nervous. The key to destroying your fear of public speaking here is to
remember only the 2 or 3 biggest points of the speech, and then you will be
able to speak with a much better flow to your audience without having to
worry about saying line after line to perfection. Public Speaking Secrets
unveils all the keys to getting rid of your fear of public speaking within
three days or less! This was just a taste!
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Mastering Public Speaking ? How to Succeed Greatly in Public Speaking
Posted: 13 Jul 2011 07:02 AM PDT
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Mastering Public Speaking ? How to Succeed Greatly in Public Speaking
Some people fear speaking in public more than they fear death. Nonetheless,
mastering public speaking is an attainable task if you focus on your
objectives and the benefits you will get from it. Government officials,
owners of high-end companies, and bank presidents invest lots of time and
money in mastering public speaking and delivering a speech more confidently
to people.
The first question you should ask yourself is: Why should you master public
speaking? The answer is really simple. Mastering public speaking is a
primer in helping a person move up to the leadership position. It’s the key
notable persons use to carry themselves and portray a leadership perception.
Remember the famous figures you admire on TV, in school, in your own office
building or your community? If you notice, they act really well in front of
the public. They have the charisma emphasized even more with their body
language.
Mastering public speaking is not all about the words that come out of your
mouth and the bright ideas you think are right. It is about going on stage
and letting the listeners feel your spirit.
Notice how exceptional public speakers approach the stage the way they
play with the rising and falling tone of their voice, and the way they make
eye contact with the audience. These tricks make them stand out when
speaking in front of the crowd. You can get people to listen to every word
you say if you know when to lower your voice into a hushed tone, and when
to raise it into a shout to make your point.
In order to capture your audience’s attention, mastering public speaking is
an absolute necessity. Whether you are trying to influence, inform or
entertain your audience, you know you have to be speaking to a group of
people in a disciplined and systematic manner. Remember that a good speaker
does not only inform but also motivate the listeners to be involved.
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A Public Speaking Course Can Dramatically Increase Your Success
Posted: 13 Jul 2011 03:01 AM PDT
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A Public Speaking Course Can Dramatically Increase Your Success
A good public speaking course may be precisely what you need to take your
career to the next level. Public speaking is a vital part of being
successful in today’s business world, and a public speaking course is the
best way to improve this particular set of skills.
A public speaking course will teach you all the ins and outs of presenting
subject matter to a group. You will learn about various types of public
speaking, and you will learn about different approaches that can be used
depending upon your intent. For instance, you would approach public
speaking differently if your intent is to educate than you would if your
intent is to persuade.
Public speaking training will help you learn different strategies and
approaches for each of the reasons for public speaking. By engaging in
training you will prepare yourself for any situation which calls for you to
stand before a group. Becoming a good public speaker carries a host of
benefits. After all, what good is information if you are unable to convey
its importance and relevance? Presenting information accurately and
persuasively, however, is a skill. And like other skills, presenting
information effectively requires instruction and practice. To acquire this
practice, a public speaking course is often the best approach.
A public speaking course can benefit you whether you are totally
inexperienced with public speaking or are a regular at this practice. The
fact of the matter is that everybody has room for growth, and whether you
consider yourself a novice public speaker or an expert, there is certainly
more you can learn to hone your skills and improve your public speaking
abilities.
The longer you wait to improve your public speaking abilities, the longer
you postpone the success you deserve. Taking part in a public speaking
course can provide untold benefits. Learn more at
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